• “On a bell curve, we’re all born with certain skills. Some people are better track runners than others, and on and on, and everyone knows this. But there are some people who are more psychic, more tuned in. If you’re too far above average, you can walk down the street, go into information overload, be empathic, be an empath, pick up all the feelings of all the people around you… and your life can be miserable.” Major Ed Dames

    In further conversation with an aforementioned beautiful women, regarding my previous theory she said (and I quote)

    “I just can’t understand why guys do some of the things they do – I mean, I just don’t get it”

    So I said, “It’s because they’re male, and you’re a gorgeous woman.”

    So, I came to the conclusion that there’s a pretty typical bell curve (which I am too lazy to illustrate or even steal somewhere off the web).

    Whereby – there is a chasm of understanding between what men will do for a gorgeous woman, and what a gorgeous woman understands a man will do for a beautiful woman (the bottom of either side of the bell curve).

    AND

    a very close margin of understanding of what men will do for a gorgeous woman, and what a gorgeous woman understands a man will do for a beautiful woman (the top of the bell curve).

    So:

    At the bottom of the bell curve, there’s probably the typical “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” understanding.

    At the middle of the bell curve – where most of us are, realize the differences and there’s a give and take between the sexes’ realities.

    At the top of the bell curve, are the people who know what they’ve got, know how to use it to their advantage, and could get the opposite of their sex to commit murder and make them think it was their idea.

    Totally non-scientific – but entertaining nontheless.


  • “A smile says a million words. A tear says a thousand words. One look says it all.”

    As I was discussing earlier with a friend, I’m not sure if it’s a fatal flaw or just that I’m male….

    When I look into the eyes of a beautiful woman, I can be told anything and I’ll believe it’s the truth.

    sceyes

    She could be covered in blood, with a knife in her hand and a corpse at her feet – and say, “I didn’t do it…..”

    And I’d believe her.

    Consensus was because I’m male. Apparently I’m not the only one who has this problem.


  • “There is a misdirected obsession with weight and weight loss, the focus is all wrong. It’s fitness that is the key.” Steven Blair

    So true, so true.

    For some reason, I continue to have conversations regarding workout motivation with people I know. Seems odd……or at least it seems odd if you’ve happened to have known me most of my life.

    Physical fitness was never at the top of my “important things to do before I die” list.

    However, since fitness apparently keeps my perpetual clock ticking by reducing my blood pressure, at this point it’s something I’m kind of required to do.

    Sure, I could stop and just kill myself the long, slow, and hard way – until I die of a heart attack. Or stroke. Or both.

    But……

    I do find that I actually enjoy working out.

    REALLY!

    Not sure why. It could be the endorphins, it could be the challenge, it could be the desire to appear attractive to others, it could be lots of things.

    I find that changing my motivation helps me keep focus. I read some books on “making things happen in your life” and I also find that this could be applied (in my case) to working out:

    Give yourself a goal. A tangible, specific goal. Not the “I want to lose weight – just because I want to lose weight” goal. That goal never helped anyone. It’s too easy to backslide.

    My first goal (last year) was to weigh what I weighed in high school, by my next birthday. At the time I think it was February, and my birthday was in December, so that gave me a good enough span of time to make the goal – even with some backsliding. I weighed 165 through the majority of high school.

    Did I make it? *Everyone is holding their breath*

    Yes – at the time, I did. As vain as I am, I’m very surprised that I didn’t take any pictures of my bulging biceps. While I weighed what I did in high school, I was considerably more muscled. But then, with my father getting progressively worse, and moving up here in February, and then eventually passing away – I lost all desire to work out. Depression and anxiety screwed up it all up (understandably). Now, five months later, I find myself working back into it. I swore to myself that I would never get as big as I did (and I’ve already downsized my wardrobe into smaller sizes than I’ve ever worn so I HAVE to fit into them or else buy a whole new wardrobe again)

    Let’s cycle through some (not all) of my goals (rotating):

    * Be fit enough not to be the “fat rockabilly guitar player”
    * Fit enough that both ladies and dudes totally are impressed with my manly physique
    * Fit enough that I don’t have the tummy bulge poking out of the size shirt that I should be wearing when I’m walking past the freezer case and unconsciously suck in my gut each time to hide it
    * Fit enough that I don’t gasp for air when performing any laborious activity (not limited to hide and seek, wrestling with my daughter, changing the oil in my car, climbing on the roof, etc, etc, etc)
    * Fit enough that I could hold my own in a bar fight
    * Fit enough that I can eat garbage and junk food (occasionally) and not feel bad about it truly deep down because I’m busting my ass working out.
    * Fit enough that if Sabina Kelley got divorced and made an appearance in my town, I would totally sweep her off her feet (with my muscles – and my charm – but my muscles would do the heavy lifting).

    That’s but a few.

    This whole process was made easier because I’ve essentially got a trainer. One of my best friends works out pretty much five days a week. He’s told me his goals – and I kid you not – they are no more or less as plain as mine. It’s the desire and motivation that will get you there. When I have questions, I ask him. If he doesn’t know, we go look it up. Granted, he hasn’t designed workout plans for me, but he just suggests places to look and things to try. It’s my desire that makes me go and try whatever it is I find.

    I hope in some way I can inspire someone to help themselves out – like the way my friend did.

    Starting slow and easy, and then worked my way into doing more.

    I always remember the saying, “Doing a little of something is better than doing nothing at all”.


  • “I’m rather enjoying the whole process of reinvention, … To be able to pretend to be something that I’m frankly not is very liberating and exciting.” Hugh Laurie

    Everyone should embark upon a reinvention of themselves at some time in their lives. I think the world would be a much better place.

    A lot of the unhappy people in the world are merely upset with themselves that they didn’t step out, achieve anything, change themselves, or learn something about the world they live in.

    With some of us, it’s a slow work – in – progress.

    Have I personally achieved everything that I’ve ever wanted? That would be a “no”.

    Do I feel like I’m moving in the right direction? Sometimes. Some times faster or more slowly than others.

    Getting older means redefining yourself, (hopefully) figuring out who you want to be – and being that person.

    With all that said, I was thinking the other day about those “reinvention” type stories. Guy moves on from high school…..re-invents himself as a different person in college…….girl moves to a different town……..re-invents herself as a different person.

    I was wondering if that one was one of the reasons why my father took me to tour all those colleges that were out-of-town. Maybe in some small way.

    We did discuss it one time, but I never got an exact reason as to why I was going anywhere at all.

    Should have just stayed in town, and gone to U of H. Although, of course, my life would be completely different than it is now.

    Like “Back to the Future”…..


  • “But I am foiled always with an instant turn-off: everyone I start to get a crush on…smokes.” – Anon

    I know I’ve been remiss in updating my blog. It’s not that things haven’t been happening, it’s just that without internet access, it makes accessing the internet a little more challenging.

    On one of my more recent pet peeves – I spend a lot of time driving back and forth to work. That’s not my peeve. Since my sojurn northward, my drive time has increased quite a bit. While driving, I have plenty of times to spy a cutie in some random car around me.

    This is great! Who could complain?

    Well, my problem is when I spy a cutie, then notice their window is cracked down an inch………

    …….in July……

    ……in Texas……

    ….and the next thing I know, there’s a cigarette flipping ash out the window.

    Such a shame.

    I’m not wholly inexperienced in being with a woman who smoked. I’ve done it – it taught me a few things about smoking that I never would have known – not being a smoker myself.

    And by all means, I’m not one to judge at all. I kill myself in many different ways all the time, booze is but one of them. So I don’t have a problem with cute girls who smoke at all. Just a little disappointed.

    I guess I never understood the motivation for doing it – other than looking cool. Truth be told, you do look cooler when you’re smoking……in most situations.

    Swanky nightclub……cool.

    Looking grown up and sophisticated……cool.

    Using it as a conversation starter on multiple occasions……..fairly cool.

    Standing outside your office building because you’re having a nic fit and had to get out of your cubicle…………

    not so cool.

    So, for me, smoking is a habit that I’ve never had. Just lucky I guess.


  • “We herd sheep, we drive cattle, we lead people. Lead me, follow me, or get out of my way.” George S Patton

    Damn you AT&T!

    My ex-wife turned on her internet at her apartment and having never switched to a new account, it disabled my internet access at my house.

    D’OH!!

    U-Verse – here I come…..on the 10th. *sigh*

    I had a guy tail me the majority of the way back from Houston this weekend – my daughter and I went to a wedding – and I had my cruise control set at 83 the entire time. He tried to pass me then sped past me, and I caught up to him four separate times. Doing the same 83 mph…..

    What an idiot.


  • “It was fun to see old friends.” Corey Hartung

    Yes, I did make it down to the Houston area this last weekend.

    We ended up at the Dane Cook show, and it was fun. While I’m not a Dane Cook fan per se, it was a good enough reason to go down and it was a lot more fun seeing Monica after (15?) or so years. Her daughter is seventeen and a spitting image of what I imagine my own daughter being in just six short years…

    *sigh*

    Getting old is hell.

    On Sunday, I ended up touring one of the last places that I lived – and nearby – Montrose.

    I’ve spent plenty of time touring other parts of the city that I have previously lived, and at this point – my old neighborhood is holding out. It’s slowly getting older…..
    If I was going to move back, I’d have to say that I would be living in the Heights. All the Houstonians will hate me for this, but the neighborhood gentrification is a GOOD thing.

    It’s making the neighborhoods more desirable – not so much the townhomes themselves, but the surrounding neighborhoods aren’t so…..dangerous looking.

    The Rice mills on (Waugh?) and (Studemont?) are gone – replaced by a multiplex of townhomes/apartments. It looks like a pretty happening bar scene is popping up on Washington (now not so dangerous looking).
    One of the things I noticed this time was that every where I went, everyone was intent on not making conversation. Up here, everybody (for the most part) is friendly, and you can strike up a conversation really easily. Starting a conversation anywhere I went was like pulling teeth. Even for people whose job is customer service!

    On the plus side, I did find another leather jacket – less than 50 feet from where I bought my original one (back in ’91). I sold my last jacket (I think) when I had wrecked my Acura – sold the jacket and some cues for some cash.

    Finally found a jacket I liked.

    Go Me!

    My car does a wonderfully fast 104mph, and my new radar “locator” found a cop before he found me….. Life is Good.

    I wonder how many of us are stuck in destructive loop cycles and don’t realize it?


  • “He was brilliant. He had temperamental issues from time to time – he was a high-strung guy – but we made allowances for that to some extent.” Anthony Pico

    As odd as it sounds, I used to be pretty high strung.

    (I picture everyone shaking their head in mock disbelief)

    No, really, I was.

    Since I’ve entered the medication generation, my tension has lowered somewhat and now I’m merely low-to-medium strung.

    Been taking a lot of naps recently, and so my sleep schedule is off, spent yesterday late night hard wiring my radar detector (and remote display) into the uh…..no-named car……

    Managed to screw up and buy 25 ft of phone cord that didn’t work, so I found some and installed it. I really should have known better, as an installer….

    ALWAYS test for FUNCTION before the FINAL placement.

    I wound the phone cable up through my headliner, down the side door drip rails, under the dash and hardwired into my stereo wiring. Then I realized that it wasn’t powering on. So I clipped the jacks, rewired to match the factory cabling (three times) and it still didn’t work.

    Grabbed a random phone cable (8 ft) and it worked…..so I pulled it all back out and started from scratch.

    Couldn’t have pulled that off a few years ago.

    Routed the remote display onto my dash just below eye level. It has cool little arrow indicators to tell you which direction the radar beams are coming from.

    So, my point about being high-strung, it will be interesting to see how this radar “locator” (rather than detector) works in Houston this weekend. The last time I had a radar detector (and the Viper alarm) was back in the mid 90’s – that freaking detector went off ALL the time. If I was high strung then, I’m not sure how I ever put up with it…..must have been one of those necessary evil kind of things.

    The detector I have now is super well built, and is supposed to be “smarter” so I don’t expect that it’s going to be going off as much. We’ll see.

    Maybe I’ll call this car “Acura Pt 2”. Or K.I.T.T. or C.A.R.R.

    LOL

    val1


  • “I don’t have pet peeves, I have whole kennels of irritation” Whoopi Goldberg

    There are some things in life that make me feel great. Getting a good haircut is one of them.

    Finally got around to getting my hair cut and again, I feel like a million bucks.

    Mee-ee-lion!

    So part of getting older is getting wiser (in some cases). One of my pet peeves for the longest time was when people had tinted rear windows and wouldn’t wave when you let them into traffic. Time has finally given me divine perspective – it wouldn’t have mattered if their window was tinted or not……those people wouldn’t wave anyway.

    Elementary, I know – but sometimes reflection doesn’t yield to anything but time.

    Picked up an Adams pool cue the other day. Didn’t feel right not having a cue in the house. Odd. I know.

    The car is doing fine – I got a new intake and some security lugs for the rims. Still haven’t named it, but stupid names keep going through my mind anyway. It’s a lot of fun to drive (fast) and next on the list should be a radar detector.

    Just because….

    And also, I’m a naughty boy.