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  • “There is a misdirected obsession with weight and weight loss, the focus is all wrong. It’s fitness that is the key.” Steven Blair

    So true, so true.

    For some reason, I continue to have conversations regarding workout motivation with people I know. Seems odd……or at least it seems odd if you’ve happened to have known me most of my life.

    Physical fitness was never at the top of my “important things to do before I die” list.

    However, since fitness apparently keeps my perpetual clock ticking by reducing my blood pressure, at this point it’s something I’m kind of required to do.

    Sure, I could stop and just kill myself the long, slow, and hard way – until I die of a heart attack. Or stroke. Or both.

    But……

    I do find that I actually enjoy working out.

    REALLY!

    Not sure why. It could be the endorphins, it could be the challenge, it could be the desire to appear attractive to others, it could be lots of things.

    I find that changing my motivation helps me keep focus. I read some books on “making things happen in your life” and I also find that this could be applied (in my case) to working out:

    Give yourself a goal. A tangible, specific goal. Not the “I want to lose weight – just because I want to lose weight” goal. That goal never helped anyone. It’s too easy to backslide.

    My first goal (last year) was to weigh what I weighed in high school, by my next birthday. At the time I think it was February, and my birthday was in December, so that gave me a good enough span of time to make the goal – even with some backsliding. I weighed 165 through the majority of high school.

    Did I make it? *Everyone is holding their breath*

    Yes – at the time, I did. As vain as I am, I’m very surprised that I didn’t take any pictures of my bulging biceps. While I weighed what I did in high school, I was considerably more muscled. But then, with my father getting progressively worse, and moving up here in February, and then eventually passing away – I lost all desire to work out. Depression and anxiety screwed up it all up (understandably). Now, five months later, I find myself working back into it. I swore to myself that I would never get as big as I did (and I’ve already downsized my wardrobe into smaller sizes than I’ve ever worn so I HAVE to fit into them or else buy a whole new wardrobe again)

    Let’s cycle through some (not all) of my goals (rotating):

    * Be fit enough not to be the “fat rockabilly guitar player”
    * Fit enough that both ladies and dudes totally are impressed with my manly physique
    * Fit enough that I don’t have the tummy bulge poking out of the size shirt that I should be wearing when I’m walking past the freezer case and unconsciously suck in my gut each time to hide it
    * Fit enough that I don’t gasp for air when performing any laborious activity (not limited to hide and seek, wrestling with my daughter, changing the oil in my car, climbing on the roof, etc, etc, etc)
    * Fit enough that I could hold my own in a bar fight
    * Fit enough that I can eat garbage and junk food (occasionally) and not feel bad about it truly deep down because I’m busting my ass working out.
    * Fit enough that if Sabina Kelley got divorced and made an appearance in my town, I would totally sweep her off her feet (with my muscles – and my charm – but my muscles would do the heavy lifting).

    That’s but a few.

    This whole process was made easier because I’ve essentially got a trainer. One of my best friends works out pretty much five days a week. He’s told me his goals – and I kid you not – they are no more or less as plain as mine. It’s the desire and motivation that will get you there. When I have questions, I ask him. If he doesn’t know, we go look it up. Granted, he hasn’t designed workout plans for me, but he just suggests places to look and things to try. It’s my desire that makes me go and try whatever it is I find.

    I hope in some way I can inspire someone to help themselves out – like the way my friend did.

    Starting slow and easy, and then worked my way into doing more.

    I always remember the saying, “Doing a little of something is better than doing nothing at all”.


  • “I’m rather enjoying the whole process of reinvention, … To be able to pretend to be something that I’m frankly not is very liberating and exciting.” Hugh Laurie

    Everyone should embark upon a reinvention of themselves at some time in their lives. I think the world would be a much better place.

    A lot of the unhappy people in the world are merely upset with themselves that they didn’t step out, achieve anything, change themselves, or learn something about the world they live in.

    With some of us, it’s a slow work – in – progress.

    Have I personally achieved everything that I’ve ever wanted? That would be a “no”.

    Do I feel like I’m moving in the right direction? Sometimes. Some times faster or more slowly than others.

    Getting older means redefining yourself, (hopefully) figuring out who you want to be – and being that person.

    With all that said, I was thinking the other day about those “reinvention” type stories. Guy moves on from high school…..re-invents himself as a different person in college…….girl moves to a different town……..re-invents herself as a different person.

    I was wondering if that one was one of the reasons why my father took me to tour all those colleges that were out-of-town. Maybe in some small way.

    We did discuss it one time, but I never got an exact reason as to why I was going anywhere at all.

    Should have just stayed in town, and gone to U of H. Although, of course, my life would be completely different than it is now.

    Like “Back to the Future”…..


  • “But I am foiled always with an instant turn-off: everyone I start to get a crush on…smokes.” – Anon

    I know I’ve been remiss in updating my blog. It’s not that things haven’t been happening, it’s just that without internet access, it makes accessing the internet a little more challenging.

    On one of my more recent pet peeves – I spend a lot of time driving back and forth to work. That’s not my peeve. Since my sojurn northward, my drive time has increased quite a bit. While driving, I have plenty of times to spy a cutie in some random car around me.

    This is great! Who could complain?

    Well, my problem is when I spy a cutie, then notice their window is cracked down an inch………

    …….in July……

    ……in Texas……

    ….and the next thing I know, there’s a cigarette flipping ash out the window.

    Such a shame.

    I’m not wholly inexperienced in being with a woman who smoked. I’ve done it – it taught me a few things about smoking that I never would have known – not being a smoker myself.

    And by all means, I’m not one to judge at all. I kill myself in many different ways all the time, booze is but one of them. So I don’t have a problem with cute girls who smoke at all. Just a little disappointed.

    I guess I never understood the motivation for doing it – other than looking cool. Truth be told, you do look cooler when you’re smoking……in most situations.

    Swanky nightclub……cool.

    Looking grown up and sophisticated……cool.

    Using it as a conversation starter on multiple occasions……..fairly cool.

    Standing outside your office building because you’re having a nic fit and had to get out of your cubicle…………

    not so cool.

    So, for me, smoking is a habit that I’ve never had. Just lucky I guess.


  • “We herd sheep, we drive cattle, we lead people. Lead me, follow me, or get out of my way.” George S Patton

    Damn you AT&T!

    My ex-wife turned on her internet at her apartment and having never switched to a new account, it disabled my internet access at my house.

    D’OH!!

    U-Verse – here I come…..on the 10th. *sigh*

    I had a guy tail me the majority of the way back from Houston this weekend – my daughter and I went to a wedding – and I had my cruise control set at 83 the entire time. He tried to pass me then sped past me, and I caught up to him four separate times. Doing the same 83 mph…..

    What an idiot.


  • “It was fun to see old friends.” Corey Hartung

    Yes, I did make it down to the Houston area this last weekend.

    We ended up at the Dane Cook show, and it was fun. While I’m not a Dane Cook fan per se, it was a good enough reason to go down and it was a lot more fun seeing Monica after (15?) or so years. Her daughter is seventeen and a spitting image of what I imagine my own daughter being in just six short years…

    *sigh*

    Getting old is hell.

    On Sunday, I ended up touring one of the last places that I lived – and nearby – Montrose.

    I’ve spent plenty of time touring other parts of the city that I have previously lived, and at this point – my old neighborhood is holding out. It’s slowly getting older…..
    If I was going to move back, I’d have to say that I would be living in the Heights. All the Houstonians will hate me for this, but the neighborhood gentrification is a GOOD thing.

    It’s making the neighborhoods more desirable – not so much the townhomes themselves, but the surrounding neighborhoods aren’t so…..dangerous looking.

    The Rice mills on (Waugh?) and (Studemont?) are gone – replaced by a multiplex of townhomes/apartments. It looks like a pretty happening bar scene is popping up on Washington (now not so dangerous looking).
    One of the things I noticed this time was that every where I went, everyone was intent on not making conversation. Up here, everybody (for the most part) is friendly, and you can strike up a conversation really easily. Starting a conversation anywhere I went was like pulling teeth. Even for people whose job is customer service!

    On the plus side, I did find another leather jacket – less than 50 feet from where I bought my original one (back in ’91). I sold my last jacket (I think) when I had wrecked my Acura – sold the jacket and some cues for some cash.

    Finally found a jacket I liked.

    Go Me!

    My car does a wonderfully fast 104mph, and my new radar “locator” found a cop before he found me….. Life is Good.

    I wonder how many of us are stuck in destructive loop cycles and don’t realize it?


  • “He was brilliant. He had temperamental issues from time to time – he was a high-strung guy – but we made allowances for that to some extent.” Anthony Pico

    As odd as it sounds, I used to be pretty high strung.

    (I picture everyone shaking their head in mock disbelief)

    No, really, I was.

    Since I’ve entered the medication generation, my tension has lowered somewhat and now I’m merely low-to-medium strung.

    Been taking a lot of naps recently, and so my sleep schedule is off, spent yesterday late night hard wiring my radar detector (and remote display) into the uh…..no-named car……

    Managed to screw up and buy 25 ft of phone cord that didn’t work, so I found some and installed it. I really should have known better, as an installer….

    ALWAYS test for FUNCTION before the FINAL placement.

    I wound the phone cable up through my headliner, down the side door drip rails, under the dash and hardwired into my stereo wiring. Then I realized that it wasn’t powering on. So I clipped the jacks, rewired to match the factory cabling (three times) and it still didn’t work.

    Grabbed a random phone cable (8 ft) and it worked…..so I pulled it all back out and started from scratch.

    Couldn’t have pulled that off a few years ago.

    Routed the remote display onto my dash just below eye level. It has cool little arrow indicators to tell you which direction the radar beams are coming from.

    So, my point about being high-strung, it will be interesting to see how this radar “locator” (rather than detector) works in Houston this weekend. The last time I had a radar detector (and the Viper alarm) was back in the mid 90’s – that freaking detector went off ALL the time. If I was high strung then, I’m not sure how I ever put up with it…..must have been one of those necessary evil kind of things.

    The detector I have now is super well built, and is supposed to be “smarter” so I don’t expect that it’s going to be going off as much. We’ll see.

    Maybe I’ll call this car “Acura Pt 2”. Or K.I.T.T. or C.A.R.R.

    LOL

    val1


  • “I don’t have pet peeves, I have whole kennels of irritation” Whoopi Goldberg

    There are some things in life that make me feel great. Getting a good haircut is one of them.

    Finally got around to getting my hair cut and again, I feel like a million bucks.

    Mee-ee-lion!

    So part of getting older is getting wiser (in some cases). One of my pet peeves for the longest time was when people had tinted rear windows and wouldn’t wave when you let them into traffic. Time has finally given me divine perspective – it wouldn’t have mattered if their window was tinted or not……those people wouldn’t wave anyway.

    Elementary, I know – but sometimes reflection doesn’t yield to anything but time.

    Picked up an Adams pool cue the other day. Didn’t feel right not having a cue in the house. Odd. I know.

    The car is doing fine – I got a new intake and some security lugs for the rims. Still haven’t named it, but stupid names keep going through my mind anyway. It’s a lot of fun to drive (fast) and next on the list should be a radar detector.

    Just because….

    And also, I’m a naughty boy.


  • “Being kissed is an occupational hazard of police work.” Jack Morgan

    It’s because I’m white, isn’t it?

    Louis CK has a great bit about being white, and he hit it dead on.

    I got pulled over today by a Coppell police officer. Speeding? Check. Talking on the cell phone while speeding? Check.

    Respectfully, I told the truth, that I, “Really didn’t have a good reason to be speeding”. (Not like when I got pulled over in 1995, with a baby* not in a car seat, speeding, with a priest license and got smart with the cop, “Because I was in a hurry?” – and I still got let off then too)

    He asks me what I do, and I tell him, then he lets me go with a warning.

    Now……I’ve heard……..that it’s pretty rare that you’ll be let off in Coppell.

    I am one lucky (white) sunofdabitch.

    It’s also a good thing that I was in the work Honda Element and not my car.

    If it had been my car? Ticket for sure.

    Tomorrow I get Lo-Jack installed, and I can momentarily stop stressing out about leaving my car anywhere for extended periods of time.

    And because it’s such a great bit:

    * Edit * I just noticed a total continuity error during his last line. Obviously filmed more than once…….See if you can catch it!

    *not mine by the way


  • “I just didn’t want to make another movie about teenagers being stalked,” Wes Craven

    The reason that blogs are generally not interesting is the same reason that I’ve read that the majority of screenplays written by your average amateur writer are not readable – because everybody tends to “write what you know”. What the majority of people “know” is their own lives – and what they’re doing day to day (myself included). Some people (professional bloggers included) are (to me) exquisitely able to look outside of their own focus and write about other things. Speaking of which, Girlontop needs to bust out a screenplay one of these days – although I don’t have any suggestions.

    Creatively and artistically, I file somewhat lower than amateur – I’ve never followed through in writing anything significant, and while I am aiming to musically expand myself after years of just tooling around, I don’t foresee that the caliber of my compositions will change the world.

    I’m okay with that.

    So. On to the day to day –

    As a homeowner, some things give me perverse pride in doing. I busted ass on Friday and fixed a toilet, mowed the lawn, got my (car) windows tinted (more), and did four loads of laundry. In three hours….

    I spent most of Saturday in Waxahachie (TX) watching my daughter’s dance recitals. After I was there for six hours I had to bail. The battery on my mp3 player gave out, and I couldn’t take it any more.

    Two entertaining occasions when Rod and I went out recently –

    1) We sat down, and the first words out of our server’s mouth: “You look like Morgan Freeman….”

    2) We’re walking out of the restaurant:

    Me (talking to Rod): That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it.
    Server: That’s a song.
    Me: What?
    Server: That’s a song.
    Me: Really? I’ve never heard it…
    Server: It’s a country song – you’ve never heard it?
    Me: Nope
    Server: So you’re saying the saying that came from that song but you never heard it?
    Me: Uh……….no. I’ll have to Google it.


  • “Looks like you’ve lost the keys to the clue-mobile” Martin Poulter

    Right now it’s a quiet time.

    Coffee maker is warming up……waking up from a three hour nap. I had to work today – and yesterday – so I’m pretty out of it. Is it Tuesday?? I have to quit taking that Xanax – it keeps knocking me out.

    Memorial Day.

    Traded in the Hondas on Saturday….and got another Honda.  I’ve been asked what I’ve named it, but nothing has sprung forth as fitting. I’m tending to call it my “mid-life-crisis-mobile”. But that’s a little wordy. Actually, I only half heartedly call it that. I went through a lot of different choices before I picked it and several of those cars were definitely mid-life-crisis worthy. The last one I weeded out before the Honda was the Mazda RX8. Unfortunately, the RX8 Renesis engine has a rather disturbing trend of burning up engines when using manufacturers recommended oil weight.  While the rotary engine is simple, I don’t think that rebuilding it every 30,000 miles is something I wanted to do.

    Plus, I know Honda cars pretty well – starting with my blue Acura back in the mid-nineties.  I know what goes wrong with them, they’re reliable, good with gas, not going bankrupt…..

    mlcm

    It’s a 2006 Civic SI……It’s really fast. And black.

    I didn’t realize that it’s faster than my brother’s mini Cooper until I looked it up.

    While I did have a Cobra alarm on the Acura (as anyone who was concious in the 90’s remembers the destinctive 6 alarm wail of), this will be the first car that I’ve installed Lo-Jack on.

    Needless to say, car thieves like fast cars with fast engines.